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Help others find this article: Digg It! or Bookmark it! Share TOO MUCH HOUSEWORK As housework How many times have we heard that very true saying that 'Housework is never done'? So, are you one of those folks who go non-stop with errands, picking-up, cleaning, cooking, shopping, helping with homework, and... until you collapse in a chair or bed... only to begin the cycle all over again, the next day? Well, I have a newsflash for you: You're not only missing out on years of enjoyment that can never be recaptured, you are driving a major wedge between you and your spouse. One that at some point in time could become permanent. If you are so compulsive because you are purposely attempting to avoid spending 'face time' with your family, then you had best begin working toward resolving any problems which cause you to react in that manner. Whether that menas you see a professional in the field or you and your family decide to deal directly with your concerns is pretty irrelevant. The bottom-line here is that
you need to do something. Whatever the reason, you will eventually discover family members deciding that they no longer want to spend time with you! Especially if you eventually decide to jump off of the merry-go-round that you designed, built, and have been riding upon. One technique that can prove of value to a compulsive housewife or househusband is that of literally scheduling time to spend with your spouse/ children. Once time with them becomes an 'official' part of your week's calendar, it becomes so much easier to 'give in' and relax with them. (Just as making a savings account deposit a part of your household budget, allows you to build that nestegg for some future goal.) Hiring a maid or a local, unemployed teen, senior, or househusband/ wife to give you a hand around the house, several hours a week, might not be so difficult to budget for. Not to sound morbid, but haven't you heard about spouses who lose their partner, only to lament the lost moments which could and should have been shared? I have news for you! Whether or not they verbally express that sentiment, the overwhelming majority of folks have that reaction, when facing the death of their husband/ wife. Bottom line, is that unless you make the time now for your family, they will lose their interest in you, you will eventually burn out, you will find yourself on the receiving end of a divorce decree, find your spouse in the arms of someone else, or... 'Nuff said!
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